Dealing With Weddings And Family Drama
Weddings are such perfect, happy occasions, right? Well, not always. The blunt truth is that many of us don’t enjoy the prospect of going to weddings. We attend out of obligation even though it is so anxiety provoking. Why should we use our precious vacation time on a trip to a destination wedding? Why should we buy an expensive dress we will never wear again? Why do we have to sit next to our toxic aunt after what she said at Christmas? Who wants to be responsible for our mildly xenophobic elders in a foreign resort?
There are a few ways to cope and get the best of this destination wedding and potential family drama.
1) You could swallow your pride and focus on the bride and groom 2) You could embrace the trip as a vacation – one that happens to have a wedding in the middle 3) You could create the best memories and stories as you live in the moment 4) You could accept that drama and disfunction are inevitable and lean into them.
The bride and groom’s big day.
Take a moment to think about your feelings for the couple. This desire to be happy for others is a powerful tool that could help you make the most of the wedding. Use it to motivate you through the journey, family gatherings or the wedding itself. Let that inspire you to be the bigger person wherever possible.
Their wedding during your vacation.
Don’t forget that the rest of the trip can be all about you. You don’t have to fly out there with everyone else in the family. Do things your way as much as possible without treading on the toes of the bride and groom. Take the time to see more of the destination than just the venue and hotel. Buy something to wear that is affordable, you feel good in and you would wear again.
Live in the moment.
Make the most of the day for what it is – for better or for worse. Go with the flow of the day. Accentuate the positive moments to create pleasant memories with the few attendees you actually like. Take plenty of photos of the real moments and duck out of the staged, fake family ones.
Accepting the drama.
Finally, appreciate the fact that you can’t stop your relatives from creating drama. Acceptance may help you cope when it finally happens. Take a step back and laugh off the ridiculousness of the arguments. Turn the drama over catching the bouquet into a comedic farce.
If you struggle to do all this and it all gets too much, make sure to have an exit plan in place. Get through the ceremony, give the happy couple your regards and slip out the back door. No one will blame you if you fulfil the bare minimum requirements and decide to look after your own mental health.