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How Pop Culture Gets Depression All Wrong

Dina | July 3, 2020
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Depression has been mislabeled and misrepresented by pop culture for years. There are many high-profile movies and TV shows that have come out recently that try to tackle the issue, and ultimately drop the ball. One of these films was Silver Linings Playbook starring Bradley Cooper and Jennifer Lawrence.

Silver Linings Playbook took a deep dive into what it’s like to live with mental health issues, but it completely misrepresented depression. The movie revolved around Bradley Cooper’s character working on getting back together with his wife, who suffers from depression. The film goes on to make it seem that companionship is the simple answer to mental illness. While companionship is a huge help to those who are lonely, the movie makes it seem like a catch-all.

Pop culture has glamorized and glorified what it means to have a mental illness. Most movies, as well as TV shows, depict that there is an emotional attachment to depression, and that it has a simple cause that can be fixed or forgotten. Most depictions of depression in pop culture make depression look beautiful and that you should be staring out of windows or crying gracefully. They show depression as being sad or upset, and those confused emotions bring the character to a large blowup or breakdown. This is not the case for the majority of those who suffer from depression.

Depression is something that millions of people suffer from every year. The depiction of depression in pop culture is almost always associated with the thoughts of suicide. Some of those who suffer from severe depression do also suffer from suicidal thoughts, but you do not have to have suicidal thoughts to be depressed. Another way pop culture misses the mark is by portraying depressed characters as low-functioning and struggling in life. This, in reality, is not always the case. There are plenty of successful and high-functioning people suffering from depression.

Many of those who suffer from depression are responsible for their career, bills, other commitments, and other people. These commitments can play a role in how depression is brought on, but those who suffer from it try to function well enough to take care of their responsibilities.

The unfortunate truth is that there is no simple fix for depression. Companionship may not be the answer for all people who suffer from the illness. Many of those who suffer from depression also take prescription medication to help with their fight against it, and some are on those medications for the rest of their lives. Depression is also heavily combated by therapy and emotional counseling.

Depression in pop culture is portrayed as some beautiful thing that can be rectified quickly just by meeting some basic human need that one is lacking. This is simply not the case. Depression is scary, dirty, tragic, sad, and all around you. Depression should not be glamorized or romanticized. The real effects of depression should be talked about and discussed.

It’s great to see mental illness more accepted and discussed in movies and pop culture overall, but it is essential to make sure we know the facts behind the disease and not just what Hollywood shows.

If you or someone you know has signs of depression (like thousands of others), it can be managed. If you would like to see how our practice can help, please contact us.

Dealing With Weddings And Family Drama

Dina | September 4, 2019
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Weddings are such perfect, happy occasions, right? Well, not always. The blunt truth is that many of us don’t enjoy the prospect of going to weddings. We attend out of obligation even though it is so anxiety provoking. Why should we use our precious vacation time on a trip to a destination wedding? Why should we buy an expensive dress we will never wear again? Why do we have to sit next to our toxic aunt after what she said at Christmas? Who wants to be responsible for our mildly xenophobic elders in a foreign resort?

There are a few ways to cope and get the best of this destination wedding and potential family drama.

1) You could swallow your pride and focus on the bride and groom 2) You could embrace the trip as a vacation – one that happens to have a wedding in the middle 3) You could create the best memories and stories as you live in the moment 4) You could accept that drama and disfunction are inevitable and lean into them.

The bride and groom’s big day.

Take a moment to think about your feelings for the couple. This desire to be happy for others is a powerful tool that could help you make the most of the wedding. Use it to motivate you through the journey, family gatherings or the wedding itself. Let that inspire you to be the bigger person wherever possible.

Their wedding during your vacation.

Don’t forget that the rest of the trip can be all about you. You don’t have to fly out there with everyone else in the family. Do things your way as much as possible without treading on the toes of the bride and groom. Take the time to see more of the destination than just the venue and hotel. Buy something to wear that is affordable, you feel good in and you would wear again.

Live in the moment.

Make the most of the day for what it is – for better or for worse. Go with the flow of the day. Accentuate the positive moments to create pleasant memories with the few attendees you actually like. Take plenty of photos of the real moments and duck out of the staged, fake family ones.

Accepting the drama.

Finally, appreciate the fact that you can’t stop your relatives from creating drama. Acceptance may help you cope when it finally happens. Take a step back and laugh off the ridiculousness of the arguments. Turn the drama over catching the bouquet into a comedic farce.

If you struggle to do all this and it all gets too much, make sure to have an exit plan in place. Get through the ceremony, give the happy couple your regards and slip out the back door. No one will blame you if you fulfil the bare minimum requirements and decide to look after your own mental health.